Why is it hard to hit the “off-switch?”

Use the prompts below to establish a connection with the topic:

The first iPhone was released in 2007 and it radically shifted the way we communicate – even the way we operate – with access to this powerful device in the palms of our hands. Technology can at once create feelings of connectivity, creativity, and wonder, but in excessive use can also cause us to feel distracted, overwhelmed and empty. It can also make it hard for us to focus on what is right in front of us.

Check it out for yourself by watching the Values in Action video here (click here to watch)

Facilitator prompts the group:

• What do you love most about what your phone enables you to do?
• How do you feel if you’ve forgotten your phone at home? Free? Anxious?

Yes, there are tremendous benefits to living in this digitally connected world, but too much of a good thing may not be a good thing. We all know taking some time away from our phones and laptops is healthy, and yet, it can be so hard to put them down.

With the constant distraction and bombardment of texts, tweets, notifications and status updates, the ability to be mindful has become increasingly valuable – especially when we consider mindfulness as cultivating both a sense of awareness and a sense of presence in the current moment.

How does a spirit of mindfulness fit into our fast-paced and busy culture? And if mindfulness is good for us, why is it so hard to power down to limit our distractions and focus?

We’ll explore together how developing a sense of mindfulness can be a helpful antidote to the digital overload we often experience and unpack together why we may find it hard to do so.

Let’s spend a few moments exploring the awareness aspect of mindfulness and bring some attention to our current use of technology – how it makes us feel and how “in control” of it we feel.

As a full group, do this exercise:

• Take out your phone and pick the three apps that you use the most.
  Have three people list their apps and write all the apps that are mentioned on a large sheet of paper or screen for all to see.
• Go around in a circle and for each app listed, say how it generally makes you feel after using it, tallying all of the responses. The choices are:
  • Yay – this app boosts your mood! You are in control of when you check the app and you don’t feel compelled to be on it all of the time.
  • Yuck – you sometimes have feelings of sadness, jealousy or anger and/or you may feel pressure to continuously be checking it.
  •  Neutral – it does not change how you feel. You could delete it from your phone and it wouldn’t matter.
    (Tip: Select one App a time. Ex: start with TikTok, and go around the circle, each person just one word: yay, yuck, neutral.)
• Look at the data. How many yays and yucks did each receive?
• In small groups discuss:
  • It’s safe to assume that there are at least some yucks and neutrals in this group. Select one App that makes you feel “yuck” or “neutral” and discuss why you feel compelled to keep checking it?
  • What’s holding you back from limiting or deleting it? What would you miss if you did?

Summarize by validating all of the reasons why it’s hard to limit or delete these apps, even if they don’t always make us feel good (e.g. FOMO, pressure.)

Let’s now take a look at what Judaism has to contribute to our thinking about cultivating mindfulness through the concept of “sacred time.”

Kedushat Zman – Sanctity of Time: 

Read the following for background: 

Judaism believes in the particularity of time and that certain times have special spiritual properties: that Shabbat has an extra degree of holiness; that Pesach (Passover) is the time of our liberation; that Sukkot is a time of joy but also a time of dependance and vulnerability. But such mindfulness requires an awareness of kedushat zman, the sanctity of time.

We will explore this concept below and reflect upon it together:

Tiffany Shlain is a multidisciplinary artist, writer and filmmaker who explores the relationship between humanity and technology. In her book 24/6, she advocates for taking a break from technology, particularly smartphones, one day a week. She builds much of her thinking on the Jewish model of Shabbat.

Click here to watch an excerpt of Tiffany Shlain’s video “Technology Shabbat” and answer the questions that follow:

Facilitator prompts the group:

• Tiffany Shlain quotes the great Jewish philosopher Abraham Joshua Heschel who describes Shabbat as a “palace in time.” What does that mean?
• Are there any times in your life that you have protected as “sacred time” – when you unplug or rid yourself of distractions? How does it feel to think about doing that or adding more? What feels exciting about that possibility? What feels hard?

Summarize for the group:

The compelling part of Shlain’s approach is that it is not all or nothing. It recognizes that our digital devices are an essential part of who we are, but the downside to their force is that they can consume us, and not allow us to cultivate time for reflection, and allow creativity to flourish. That can only happen by ridding ourselves of distractions. By designating times as distinct from one another – and carving out some sacred time for ourselves – we can try to find some of that balance.